Last night when I watched Fatal Attraction, I understood why adultery is part of God’s Ten Commandments. Adultery affects not only the person who has the affair but his or her family too. It probably took a long time for the little girl to get over what happened to her pet rabbit.
David’s affair with Bathsheba led to the murder of her husband and the death of their illegitimate child. God caused David’s own household to rebel against him.
It is interesting that it was David’s son Solomon who said, “Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; He who does so destroys his own soul” (Proverbs 6:32). This is true. In Moses’ time, adultery was punishable by death. Both the man and the woman were stoned to death. The character in Fatal Attraction brought dishonor to himself and to his family. He almost lost everything.
We have seen how adultery has hurt people’s careers and tainted their reputations and how families sometimes never recover. It causes great damage. David’s family life was never the same after he committed adultery. His relationship with his children was affected.
Jesus said that adultery begins in the heart. “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:28). David saw Bathsheba bathing from his balcony and instead of turning and walking away he stood there and feasted his eyes.
How do you avoid committing adultery? One way is to feed on the Word of God and to have the Word in you enabling you to resist temptation. Paul wrote how we can resist any temptation. “Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh” (Galatians 5:16). What does it mean to walk in the Spirit? In a nutshell it means that you are open to the leading and influence of the Holy Spirit who dwells in you and you begin to shape your life after Him. The Holy Spirit influences us in three ways–through the Word of God, through others who walk in Him and through inner promptings, direction which we follow as we grow spiritually. The more we listen and follow the Spirit the less we give into the flesh. As the influence of the Spirit grows stronger the weaker the influence of the flesh becomes.
Once you have the Holy Spirit living inside you and guiding you, the desire to to sin no longer appeals to you. This is a proven formula that can be used to resist temptations.